Today’s parent is more busy than any parent in history. We have more to do, places to be, and things to accomplish than ever. Families are always headed to something, leaving something, or getting ready to go somewhere. Although families are often together, simple conversions seem to elude even the most attentive parent. Here are three simple questions you should be asking your elementary kids on a regular basis.
1. Who is your best Friend? Seems like a simple question but friends can change like the wind in grade school. Your child’s best friend can have a huge impact on what views your child holds, how they act without you around, and possibly even the trajectory of their future. How many times have we heard the excuse. “Well they just began hanging around the wrong crowd”.. Also, by asking this simple question, it will help your child to know that you are interested in their life and will be more apt to have open conversations with you during difficult times.
2. What or who really gets on your nerves at school? This question is designed to talk about what or who causes your child to get frustrated or unhappy during the week. We all have points of pain, things in our life that if we could we would eliminate from our lives but we can’t. Many times we have to learn to deal with those things and keep going. This is a great chance to pull alongside your grade-schooler and ask God for help in this area.
3. What are you looking forward to? This one may take a few minutes to get a response but when you do it will give you an idea of what they are excited about. Where their mind has been, or where its going and how you can be a part of it.
Don’t expect to get an answer every time you ask these questions. Sometimes you will have to ask these over and over again before you get anything, but if you are intentional to have conversations with your kids it will come more natural over time. Taking time to have simple conversations with your kids will strengthen the bond you have with them and will give you a peek into their lives.
Here are a few other conversation starters you can use.
- If you could ask anyone for help, who would it be and why?
- What scares you the most and why?
- What makes you feel better?
- What do you worry about the most?
- What do you think makes a happy family?
- What is your favorite family tradition?
- What kinds of lies do your friends tell their parents?
- When do you like me to hug you? When does it embarrass you?
God Bless and Keep doing what you Do.